The English Breakfast ☕
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Welcome back to The English Breakfast — the newsletter for Italian professionals who want to feel more confident in English at work.
Let’s dive in. Today we’re talking about…
The Art of Politeness: How to Disagree Diplomatically 🤫
If you disagree with someone in English, saying "I don't agree" or "You are wrong" can sound a bit too direct—almost rude.
Native speakers use simple structures to sound more polite by choosing words that challenge the idea, not the person.
Here are 6 simple ways to change your language from "accidentally aggressive" to "perfectly professional":
1. Use Modal Verbs (Might, Could, Would)
Instead of stating a problem as a certain fact, use modals to sound less aggressive.
❌ “That is too expensive and it won't work.”
➔ “That might push us over budget if we aren't careful.”
2. Focus on the Object, Not the Person (Passive Voice)
Shift the focus onto the mistake itself, not the person who made it. This saves your colleague from feeling embarrassed.
❌ “You made a mistake in the calculations.”
➔ “It looks like a mistake has been made in the spreadsheet.”
3. Use "Pre-Buffers" (The Soft Direct)
Always agree with a part of their idea before you say your counter-argument.
❌ “I don't agree. We should do this instead.”
➔ “I see your point, but have we considered the risks?”
4. Ask a Question Instead of Saying "No"
Turn your disagreement into a helpful question. This forces the other person to think about the problem with you.
❌ “We don't have the staff to manage that project.”
➔ “How do you see us managing the workload with our current team size?”
5. Shrink the Problem with "Small" Words
English speakers love to make problems sound smaller than they are using words like slight, bit, or just.
❌ “There is a big problem with this strategy.”
➔ “I have a slight concern about the rollout plan.”
6. The "Good News + Bad News" Mix
Praise the creative idea first, then gently introduce the real-world limitation.
❌ “That idea is bad for this market.”
➔ “I love the creativity of this idea, it's just that it doesn't fit our budget.”
Challenge 🏆 - Can You Fix This Conversation?
Imagine this scenario: Sarah (the manager) is asking Matteo (the team marketing specialist) to handle a last-minute project.
Matteo has excellent points, but his English is too direct and sounds aggressive. Read the dialogue and look at his three answers in bold.
Sarah: Matteo, thanks for jumping on this quick call. As you know, the Milano Fashion Gala is this weekend. Our main competitor is streaming live, so I need you to work this Saturday and Sunday to cover our social media content.
Matteo: (1) No, I don't agree because it is my free time.
Sarah: [Surprised] Well, I understand it's short notice, but it’s a massive event for the company. We really need a strong presence.
Matteo: (2) You didn't plan this correctly, so we don't have enough people.
Sarah: Look, things change fast in marketing. I'm just asking you to manage our channels for a few hours. It’s a great opportunity for the brand.
Matteo: (3) That idea is bad because our target audience is not active on weekends.
Sarah: [Sighs] Okay... let's pause here and discuss this later.
✍️ Over to You!
Matteo is not wrong—his points about work-life balance, planning, and audience data are totally valid. But his language is a verbal slap!
Your Task: Rewrite Matteo’s three statements using some of the approaches we learned above to make him sound professional, polite, and collaborative, and maybe stop him from getting fired (licenziato).
Sentence 1: Try using Modal Verbs or Pre-Buffers.
Sentence 2: Try using the Passive Voice or Qualifiers to remove the blame.
Sentence 3: Try Asking a Question or using the Good News + Bad News Mix.
📧 Reply to this email with your ideas and I’ll reply with any corrections.
Fantastic phrasal verbs
Did you think I’d forgotten about your weekly phrasal verb challenge?
You’re not so lucky. 😜
Here are 6 phrasal verbs to help you disagree and challenge requests politely.
Get to it.
Trouble in paradise 💔
Let's look at a “real-world” example of how not to argue.
Watch the first minute of this argument between Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston from the movie The Break-Up. (Spoiler alert: it doesn’t end well!)
Could they have been more diplomatic? Let's find out.
Your Task:
Watch: Listen carefully to the first 60 seconds of the video.
Catch: Write down one direct or angry statement that Vince or Jennifer makes.
Fix: Rephrase that statement using our diplomatic approaches to make it polite.
Hit reply with your answer and I'll give you personal feedback! 😀
Quick fix 🔧
In this week’s Quick Fix, we’re looking at two words that drive English learners crazy.
Word and world.
Do you pronounce them differently? Are you sure? 😉
The secret is all in the hidden "L" sound. Watch this mini-lesson to test your pronunciation and fix it in under 60 seconds:
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All right, that’s it for this week’s edition.
Have a great week and I’ll see you next time.
All the best,
Dan
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